Great moms

Asking for help is hard. Oh, is it difficult! 

We joke that men don’t ask for directions, but we need to look in the mirror a bit on this one, ladies. We, Moms, rarely ask for help. 

We want to be a great mom  

We all want to be the great mom. I don’t think I’ve ever met someone who was happy settling for second best. Our intentions are always good. We always put forth great effort. We plan all the good activities. We do all the great things. We do this because we think great things equal being a great mom. 

We can sometimes get this “great mom” thing a bit mixed up, though. Greatness doesn’t mean perfect. Let’s dive into what God says about being perfect.

You see, we miss the mark. God looked for perfect, and He didn’t find either of us. He checked the list and didn’t find a single soul. 

Good news alert. Don’t stop there. God doesn’t expect perfection. He knows we are not perfect. That’s why He sent His perfect son to die for our imperfection.

See how that works? God’s love for you, Mama, is not contingent on anything that you do. 

So, if we are not perfect, can we still be great moms? Let’s answer this.

Great moms are the ones who recognize they are not perfect 

When you recognize that you can be great because you serve a GREAT GOD, that is where true change happens.

One of the major steps in putting this humble spirit into action is to begin asking for help. I’m with ya, it’s uncomfortable. When we begin to ask for help, we think we are less than great. What really happens though is we become the great mom. We become the mom the recognizes we need community. The great moms who need the Lord. We become the great moms that accept the big “h” word that every mom avoids – HELP! 

It’s only natural. We absolutely cannot know everything and be everything for all of our children. That’s unrealistic. That is believing the silly lie that we are perfect. The counterpart, the thing I’m going to challenge you to do this week – is being humble enough to ask for help. 

Great moms ask for help 

A recent 2022 study speaks to this idea. They had 64 families of 3 to 7-year-olds reach out for check-in support with a behavior therapist. Their check-ins were brief. They would share a concern they had, and the behavior therapist would walk them through how to respond moving forward. Would you believe they only met 4 times before the family began seeing results? 

While fascinating I wasn’t surprised at all to see that at the end of the study, a significant amount of them said that they saw huge reductions of behavior in their children. The problems that brought them there seemed attainable to overcome. They were very pleased with what these check-ins did for their family. 

The success stories of these 64 families began by asking for help. 

Great moms reach out 

Maybe you want to reach out to me (a behavior therapist) and be a part of what those families in the study experienced – real change. Maybe you are ready to ask for help and be the great mom. Maybe you just need to be more transparent in your friendships. When they ask how you are doing, you are going to own that a great mom would be honest. Maybe you need to make more friends and surround yourself with more community so that you can begin to have people in your life you can ask for help. 

Wherever you find yourself today – know that …

asking for help makes you a great mom! 

You do not need to be perfect. That is an unattainable goal. Asking for help though, that is what the great moms are doing these days! 

I talk about this more in depth in my book. If you have it, please leave a review on Amazon to tell me what you think! If you don’t, then head over to Amazon and grab a copy!

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